Formlessness

This is a concept that has been in my consciousness for a long time.

This is something that gives me the power to just be myself in this world. No matter what the situation is, I can be truly myself.

What do I mean by Formless?

Formless is a state of mind that that we can attain.

Most of us living have created a certain way of looking at the world outside. Each of us has our version of it. Here I call them pots. Every pot is shaped differently, sizes are different same as our way of seeing things. We all see the world differently and somehow that limits us from witnessing the realness out there just because of our conditioning.

Being formless here means having no boundaries created by our minds. Witnessing as it is. Being like water, you put it in any pot it takes the shape of that. You put it anywhere it becomes that.

For example, you find yourself in a difficult situation, take that situation as a pot maybe container. You're thrown into it due to some reason if you're formless, you'll be able to cope up with it and work on yourself, expand yourself to get out of it.

* Being formless doesn't mean that you stay wherever you are, means you keep working on yourself by being adaptive and move forward.

Of course, there is some disturbance when you're thrown into a new situation just like there is a disturbance when you throw a rock in lake. But it doesn't last forever.

Another thing that came to me today is that being formless can also make our relationships with people better. And one very important aspect of any relationship is conversation be it brother, sister, mother, husband, wife anyone.

How we converse with them says a lot about the relationship. So how can the formless state of mind help us make it better?

*It is a two-way street, cannot be applied fully unless both have put the effort into it.

Formless conversation

How I see it is that each of us has our pots with different shapes and sizes. It means that we have different boundaries, resistance and acceptance towards things in life. Some people are more open and some aren't.

I'll share how I feel about it. If I'm talking to a person, they have their ideas, and ways of doing things to not make uncomfortable I take the shape of their pot (perception) best to my ability. I'll listen to them and answer that keeps them comfortable. There is nothing wrong with, you're respecting their boundaries. But I feel that pure connection is missing somewhere. It is missing because you're not able to explore the vastness. Sometimes you're afraid to share something because you feel like you might be judged or ignored or taken for granted.

If I feel that I have a closer connection to someone then I'd want them to always become a better version of themselves. And to contribute in that cause sometimes you have come out of the comfort zone. But you're not able to do that because there is a shape (conditioning) created by our mind that prevents it from happening.

*pure intention is very important here.

I feel, to be able to form a real and pure connection both entities have to become formless. You have to let go. You have to dissolve the pot and witness the whole. It means if we are conversing then become the ocean that knows no borders, no shape, no roof. Become the ocean that witnesses the whole sky, that flows with all winds. Become the ocean that accepts all water, be it rain, river or drain. Become the ocean that knows no fear of drowning. Become the ocean.